what to do for a broken heart christian

  1. aloneinafrica

    aloneinafrica Proudly South-African

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    I'm now 33, female, and recently got my heart cleaved all again, after what started off every bit one of the most amazing weeks of my life earlier this month.

    My landlady has 3 children; I just knew of the 2, and the third is non at domicile much due to job obligations. He recently came to visit his mother for a week, and I was instantly smitten by this charming, handsome, and polite man, not much older than myself, and quite unmarried co-ordinate to his unadorned left nuptials ring and family unit of mine who knows him.

    He was extremely helpful and nice, fixing things about my apartment that were broken, going out of his way to non inconvenience me as the family unit did their things around the house. It wasn't fifty-fifty three days into the acquaintanceship that one morning he awkwardly approached me and blurted out how thankful he is for my living here on the premises; his dad passed abroad ii years agone and his mother's mainly been living past herself, with malaise-inducing tenant later tenant in the apartment. I may have my issues, but at to the lowest degree I keep to myself, I lock upwards properly, and I disturb nobody; and that is what he was and then thankful for, maxim that now his mother doesn't experience as lonely as she used to and can sleep better at night with a reliable person right next door.

    I took his number from his female parent for when she was not home that week and urgently needed me to relay a message to him. I was sure I could sense a common attraction and as I said, he was zilch but mannerly, considerate, and thankful.

    So he left almost ii weeks ago and we didn't become the chance for a formal/proper goodbye equally I was asleep and he had to leave boondocks very early on to avoid heavy traffic. He sent me a text a 24-hour interval or so later once again thanking me for being expert to his female parent and stating that he'll see me in two months. (E.g, May - that's when his side by side break from work, in a different locale, is.)

    He texted a couple times more than to ask how things are, and for a few days we texted back and forth mainly near my pets (a true cat and a rabbit, which he finds incredibly amusing). And when I had a minor crisis about the apartment, he promised to transport his brother, who is a local, to help out as soon equally possible, and the thing was cleared up that same afternoon.

    And then... *poof* He went silent and seems to accept undergone a personality alter. I texted him a uncomplicated "Hey, just wondering how things are?" after a week of no talking, and his just reply was, "Practiced, thank you", and since then he'southward been MIA.

    I don't become it. I tin can remember every discussion of every text I sent; I said absolutely nothing offensive, and I tin't imagine his female parent would accept complained to him about me in any mode (she and I are on good terms and I've not been in trouble one time since I've been living here since last December), nor that he would've heard annihilation off-putting nigh me. He barely knows me, my past, who my friends are, what I'm upward to on a daily basis, etc.

    Information technology's really, really hurtful. The person I met and knew for a calendar week and the person he has suddenly inverse into = two TOTALLY dissimilar personas.

    I'thou not going to gamble compromising my living arrangements by asking him via text if anything's wrong; information technology'due south simply words on a cellphone screen that could be misinterpreted and possibly atomic number 82 to a fight, and I'm already hypersensitive enough without having to face a stinging rejection or, worse, even more silence.

    My only conclusions can be this: He doesn't want to be ruled by his emotions while he's unable to exist here physically, so perchance he'll open up once more in May, but in the meantime it's breaking my eye to be ignored and brushed off similar I did something awful. Secondly, he really does have someone in his life already and feels too bad-mannered to tell me outright, "Hey, thanks for everything, only I'thousand dating someone, and so maybe this isn't advisable". Even so, he should accept the courage to put me in the clear, right?

    Third, maybe I've encountered still another two-faced wiggle, apologies for my language. But yet some other guy who's also craven to act on his feelings or to at least be honest well-nigh his lack thereof.

    I didn't meet this sort of behaviour coming and I'm so hurt that I often cry about it and I wish I'd never met him to brainstorm with. If it was at all within my means - financially, practically, etc - I'd leave this apartment and all these people behind, find a place with the aforementioned rent and benefits, and move on. But I'grand stuck while waiting for some inheritance money to come loose and a task (been applying all over the place, but nada.)

    I don't know how to deal with this, quite frankly. I practice pray, of course, and I shall attend Church tomorrow and listen quietly for answers; simply I don't know where in Scripture I can find comfort for this particular state of affairs. Where I was nice and kind and friendly and suddenly the other person is, inexplicably, being a monster.

    I already deal with depression and anxiety, unmedicated virtually of the fourth dimension due to fiscal reasons; when this guy came effectually and seemed so stereotypically "the one", my whole psyche lifted and I felt comforted (I lost both my parents last year and I take no shut relatives other than my adoptive sister who's non an empathetic person only volition always assist out practically). Now I'k back in that dark place that'due south a struggle to become out of. I have nobody to talk to and Then much sadness and anger to deal with.

    Any advice... any prayer... whatever insight... please.

    :help:

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  2. salt-n-light

    table salt-n-light Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Consider that all this have been happening in such a short span, its all-time to not showtime off things with high expectations. He is man, sorting himself out similar you are.He is fallable, but like you. Even at our best, doesn't guarantee satisfaction, joy, peace, the things your soul actually seeks security from. It will never come from man. From my finish, don't jump to conclusions, and give him time. In the concurrently, continue your eyes on God and in the things of God.

    I had similar bug where I go too emotionally involved with a person, too easily, and I don't give me or the other person room to sort things out and let things play out. I come in with too high of expectations and if they don't live up to information technology, I easily fall into a hole. Permit that intense need of intimacy exist reserved for God, and let the affections of that guy only be an added bonus to your life.

    It tin easily brand him (and relationships in the future) go idolized in your heart. To the betoken where the guy is more present than God. Take hold of yourself when that happens and pray nearly it. Pray for the guy, and pray for yourself. Ask God how to best bargain with your emotions, why its at that place, how to have peace in this situation. And pray to be a approval to someone out there, who may be going through what you're feeling now. Ultimately nosotros are here to bring others to Christ and have God'due south glory exist shown, don't lose sight of that.

    Philippians 4:iv-nine Male monarch James Version (KJV)
    4 Rejoice in the Lord ever: and once more I say, Rejoice.

    five Permit your moderation exist known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.

    6 Be careful for cypher; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests exist fabricated known unto God.

    seven And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall continue your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

    viii Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of adept report; if there exist any virtue, and if in that location be any praise, recall on these things.

    9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

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  3. R. Hartono

    R. Hartono Well-Known Member

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    Accept information technology easy, requite him a guitar and he'll sing "Edelweiss"
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  4. Be anxious for zippo, merely in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all agreement, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
    Philippians 4:6-seven

    If he has lost his holy spirit, it doesn't necessarily mean that you lot caused information technology (James ane:14-15).

    The destroyer works to isolate him from every opportunity that The Holy Spirit may accept to redeem him (Proverbs v:22-23, Ecclesiastes 4:ix-10, Galatians 6:ane, John 15:3, 1 Corinthians 15:33).

    It sounds as though you are one such instrument (1 John four:7, 1 John 4:sixteen), though it is a potential threat to your ain security besides (Proverbs 17:22, John 10:ten).

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  5. AlexDTX

    AlexDTX Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Hope deferred makes the heart sick. Prov. xiii:12

    Your eye is broken because your hope was deferred. Your hope has been misplaced.

    Psa 31:24 Be of adept courage, and he shall strengthen your centre, all ye that hope in the LORD.
    Jer 17:seven Blest is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.

    We all sense desperation in others. Your want to marry creates separation from others and interferes with edifice relationships. Everyone wants to feel that they are always costless. Wisdom grants liberty.

    Pro 18:one Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with all wisdom.

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  6. AlexDTX

    AlexDTX Well-Known Member Supporter

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    @aloneinafrica
    If I may speak further. Being a disciple of Christ means dying to cocky. Dying to self simply means dying to your wants and desires knowing that God already knows your wants and desires and will give you those things when the time is right.

    Mat_6:eight Exist not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye take need of, earlier ye ask him.

    The order of cosmos serves to illustrate the point. In half dozen days He made all things in this order.

    1. Light and darkness
    2. Heaven and water
    3. Dry land and vegetation
    4. Sun and stars to marker time
    5. Fish and fowl
    6. Animals and human being.
    Do y'all run into how God made the provision get-go and life second?
    Exist patient and trust the Lord's expert fourth dimension.
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  7. S.O.J.I.A.

    Due south.O.J.I.A. Dynamic UNO

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    clearly you assumed something that wasn't really there. yous mistook kindness for romantic involvement.
  8. Ronit

    Ronit Well-Known Fellow member

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    I hate charming! Amuse is mendacious!

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